There are two things we should keep in mind when coming out to family and friends.
There was a length of time before we could recognize and accept our own sexuality. It may take others some time to process that same information and to come to terms with it as we have. We cannot expect for everyone to embrace it as though we have just announced the discovery of what’s at the end of the rainbow.
In our coming out and in their acceptance of us, our friends and family also come out. Previously they were just that…our friends and family. But, now, they are the friends and family of a gay person. Sometimes that doesn’t roll off the tongue as easily as we would like.
However, there are also those who will never accept us and we must know when to stop waiting and carry on without them. We cannot live our lives under the shadow of hopeful approval.
PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) is an excellent organization which may help those who struggle.