Depression runs a spectrum. It can be as large as feeling as though you are drowning and unable to breathe to being occasionally sad or blue. It can be a frequent funk or it can be heavy enough to commit suicide, ending it all.
Usually those who suffer will not tell you the depth of their despair voluntarily. It places the onus of initial conversation on friends and family members who recognize the flux in emotion and change in behavior. Tough questions need to be asked.
When sadness comes, do you ever think of suicide? If the thought ever came, would you tell me? Can you share with me what you experience? I want you to know that I love you…care about you…I would miss you..there would be a hole if you weren’t here.
In some cases, it may be necessary to guide someone toward professional assistance.
The ugly part of suicide is not just death. The pain burdening individuals who experience recurring depression is transferred to those left behind to shoulder.
We should do anything we can to rescue those who suffer. Directly and indirectly we are all affected. Every life matters.